September 24 2022 - Screaming to Communicate

You can't speak yet sweetheart.

But you have needs.

A need for sustenance, a need for physical comfort, and a need for psycho-emotional peace of mind. As far as I know, these are the core.

The needs you have are connected. But, they differ.

How do you communicate which need you currently have? Have do you impart the differences?

Quite frankly, at this stage, you don't! 😂

You have a single tool at your disposal: Screaming.

There may be differences in volume, depending on the urgency of the need to be met, but the tool is one & the same: Screaming.

Given that your scream can be a result of several different reasons, a lack of clarity can ensue regarding your needs.

As the possible options regarding your needs are not extremely varied at this stage of your life, it is not too bad a scenario if the initial multiple choice option is not correct. 

Quickly enough, Mum or I will go down the list. 

Sure enough, and soon enough, you get sorted.

What about once you grow up?

It struck me today that there is a parallel in adult communication (& miscommunication!). The stakes there can be very high; and the interpretation/misinterpretation options can be innumerable in some cases.

A lack of clarity in expressing one's needs or wants or genuine position is very similar to an early childhood scream.

It's too unspecific.

The listener, even if (just like a diligent parent) they have the best of intentions, is left befuddled.

The listener is left to decipher what was said. 

Worse still, the listener may be unintentionally offended. 

Worse again, a conflict may be provoked.

It is impossible to overemphasize the importance of good communication. By good communication, I mean: attentive listening inclusive of empathy ; clarity of mind and analysis; articulation that accounts for all aspects of the brain (instinctive, emotional and logical).

You will learn from interacting with others. Go in with curiosity. Keep in mind that the greater the knowledge base you develop in your own time, the more enjoyable you can become as an interlocutrice. Always remember: clarity, clarity, clarity.

Be interested, and you'll be interesting. 

Yes, good communication requires you to expend energy!

That is ok though sweetheart.

You can always recharge, with a nap, later.